Hello sisters today I wanted to write about something that most people view as a thing of the past: Courtship. But no it hasn't disappeared, and many Christians still practice it. Courting is young men and women seeking each other out, under their parents supervision, in hopes of finding a spouse. Christian courting is the same, except, finding a spouse in the will of God. So what is the difference between courting and dating?
. There is always a chaperon present on outings: A parent or guardian is always present on outings, why? Because being alone with someone you are attracted to about can be a very tempting environment. God made attraction and He made it a very powerful thing, so having a parent along can ensure that nothing sinful will or could happen.
.There is no physical touching: This is basically the first one, any form of physical touching can lead to sinful thoughts and temptation.
. It is more family based: The whole family is involved in courting, the family all should spend time with the courting couple on each sides, they should approve of the man/women, and also see how family oriented the male/female is. A good sign that a person would be a good spouse is if he or she has good relationships with their family.
.Gentleman must ask Father permission to see the girl: This is simply a sign of respect for the Father and the girl. And a way for the Father to make sure he approves of the man coming to call.
.The male that is asking is required to be a Christian: The Lord doesn't want us to be unequally yoked with none-believers never assume that someone will convert simply because they are seeing you.
Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?
.Finding someone who has the same morals: Simply because someone is a Christian doesn't mean there going to share your beliefs, it's important to find someone that share's a majority of your beliefs, especially the important ones or one's that are dear to your heart. ( it is unlikely you'll fin someone that agree's with all your convictions)
. One on one: In worldly dating, the couple is usually one on one, alone. This can cause for a tempting environment even for the strongest of Christians.
.Not as family based: As in the first bullet point it is usually one on one and the couple spends some but little time with the family.
.Dating is viewed as "just for fun": In courting it is all about finding someone God has planned for you, in dating many people view it as just for fun, and go out with many different people, which is certainly not what the Lord planned.
.Physical touching: In dating kissing is allowed, holding hands ect. Please refer back to "no physical touching" in courtship section.
.Man doesn't ask permission: In dating the man usually asks the girl before asking the Father, this is disrespectful as the Father is the head of his daughters, and should be allowed to approve of the man coming to call first, as girls and guys can be "blinded by love" and not see red flags a father would be able to pick out in a minute.
My Courtship List:
1. Must be a Christian
2.Must share majority of my beliefs
3. Must share most of my beliefs on how to raise children (Home schooled, involved in church ect.)
4. Must respect my family.
5.Must follow the Bible's teachings
6. Must love and respect and pray to our Father Jesus Christ.
If a man follows the Bible as a strong Christian there shouldn't be many other things to put on the list as this should cover it. God bless sister I hope you enjoyed this article.
"Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favor of the Lord." (Prov. 18:22)
"Neither shalt thou make marriages with them (that is, the nations); thy daughter thou shalt not give unto his son...n (Deut. 7:3)
"For this cause shall a man leave Father and mother, and shall cleave to a wife..." ~Matt. 19:5)