Wednesday, December 12, 2012

Purity and Christianity

Hello sisters today I wanted to talk about purity and the importance of waiting until marriage. Having physical relations before marriage can destroy you and your self esteem, after a while most girls that have given it all away feel used and dirty, especially if they've given themselves away to multiply men. You want to be sure who you are sharing the most intimate emotion with the one you will be with forever and who you are pledged to through marriage vows.

When Courting:  

You don't want your relationship to be build on physical things, looks fade and people grow older and you don't want your relationship before marriage to be clouded by physical attraction and then realize later on that that's the only thing you liked about one another. Physical attraction is a very powerful instinct God implanted in us and when people engage in in kissing or sexual activities while courting it can make them believe they are in love when in truth they merely desire the other person. Before marriage a couple should be focused on finding what they have in common,  if they share the same moral and Christian values, if they really and truly love one another. Saving physical things until marriage  is what God intended for all Christians, marriage is a pledge an oath that you will love and stay with one man forevermore, this is why God commands all Christians to wed. Especially before doing physical things. He wants us to pledge ourselves to one man before you have relations because this pledge will keep you bound to him and him only.  Don't give yourself away to a man you aren't married to because you have no real proof that you'll stay together. 

How To Fight Temptation: 
1. Pray before and after outings 
2. Pray for the young man you are courting 
3.Keep things light and fun at first, don't rush into serious or love talk
4.Dress modestly! Dressing i a way that is proactive or revealing can help ensure that temptation will be kept at bay and it will ensure that your courting friend won't fall into sinful thoughts about someone he isn't married to. 
5. Set boundaries: Before you even say yes to courting, explain your boundaries if necessary and it he is against them DON'T COURT HIM! 

When setting boundaries think of this; If you and your courting friend kiss or go father and don't last, he will eventually marry someone else and then you've just kissed another women's future husband.
Kissing and such can lead to vicious temptation and it is best to be avoided in a courting couple. I believe holding hands and some hugging is okay after engagement  but I want to save the first kiss until the wedding when we are truly pledged to one another. 

1 Corinthians 10:13

No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let 

you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, 

that you may be able to endure it.

In this Bible verse it states that God gives us no more temptation than he knows we can handle, God knows we can fight the temptation to be sexually immoral. 

Sex is from God. He gave it to us as a gift. It's a wedding gift.— Bill Shannon

Sound Extreme? 
I have seen so many girls give the most precious physical gift  women can give to a man only to have their hearts broken. This is gift of kissing, and touching should be saved for a man that loves YOU enough to wait until your pledged to one another in the eyes of the Lord. Please for further advice on courting, temptation and setting boundaries visit my article entitled Courting and Christians. God bless dear sisters!     

1 Corinthians 6:18

Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person 

commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral 

person sins against his own body.

1 Timothy 4:12

Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in 

love, in faith, in purity.

Psalm 119:9

How can a young man keep his way pure? By guarding it according to your word.


Kat said...

You have very good standards. I really appreciate the opportunity to read your opinions and beliefs. I never really considered kissing as a problem, but I now that you brought it to my attention, I am reconsidering. How do you feel about stuff like holding hands, or hugging before engagement or marriage?

Laura.lea said...

Good good thoughts. Prayer is one of the most important things you can do in regards to modesty!

Taylor Willett said...

@Kat @Laura. Lea Thank you both for commenting! I totally agree with yo Laura. And I believe that holding hands and hugging should occur after engagement only because I think with hugging that can lead to temptation and holding hands can be a little too serious for a courting couple, because I think it rushes them into the need to be overly romantic. God bless sisters!

Moriah said...

Hugging and hands, as friends is ok in my book. Kissing, I'm not sure what my parents did. I'm saving my kiss for my wedding day. :) My friend told me that was what she is doing and I decided that that was a good idea too. :)